Our website uses cookies. By using the site you are consenting to this. Find out why we use cookies

CHIS-UK alternative medicine and complementary healthcare information service United Kingdom
DIRECTORIES:
 
Newsletter
To subscribe, simply enter your email address below:
Share this page:
Complementary Healthcare Information Service - UK

Be Your Best Self

Article written by Jane Yeomans

As human beings, we do not live in a vacuum. We are social creatures and years of hearing others tell us who they think we are and what they think we are capable of can have a huge impact on every aspect of our being.  

During the first eighteen years of our lives, if we grew up in fairly average, reasonably positive homes, we were told No! or what we could not do, more than 148,000 times! If you were fortunate, you may have been told No! only 100,000 times or 50,000 times - however many, it was considerably more negative programming than any of us needs .This negative programming that we all received (and still receive) has come to us quite unintentionally.  It has come to us from our brothers and sisters, from our teachers, our schoolmates, our associates at work, our life mates, advertising of all kinds .In time, we ourselves joined in. We began to believe that what we were being told by others - and what we were telling ourselves was true.  What to say when you talk to yourself - S Helmstetter

With this constant bombardment on our senses, particularly at an impressionable age, it is no wonder that many of us grew up lacking in confidence and self-belief. We reach adulthood but continue the negative self-talk that tells us we are not good enough.  But good enough for who and what exactly?

Everyone has insecurities and fears and be(ing) your best self does not mean we don't/won't experience failure, insecurity and fear - there will always be difficult situations and sometimes things will not go the way we hoped they would. However when we stop the fight within and learn to value, accept and honour ourselves, we find that our world begins to change. We are no longer drawn to people who want us to remain less than who we really are, we become more optimistic and we begin to see a larger world full of possibilities. We don't have to have perfect lives, be super-confident or highly-successful in order to feel good about ourselves.  Whoever we are, whatever we are doing is good enough. 

It isn't always easy to make changes and to change our thinking can be exceptionally difficult as we years of negative conditioning to deal with. However, just because we have certain thoughts about ourselves does not mean we have to continue thinking in the same way and denigrating ourselves.  We have choices, no matter what our present circumstances may be we can choose to start viewing ourselves differently and living our lives in ways that honour rather than fight against ourselves.

To be your best self means stopping the fight against yourself and accepting that who you are right now is good enough. It doesn't mean you can't/won't make changes to improve your life but you do so from a foundation that is strong, loving and more accepting of yourself.  From this secure base you are much more able to start building a life that makes you happy, honours who you are and in turn who you will become. 

Be Your Best Self 

About the author:

I'm a meditation tutor, life coach and holistic therapist who has been practicing meditation for over 30 years.  I enjoy working with a wide variety of people supporting them to greater confidence and self esteem.

website: confidencetobe.co.uk

copyright © Jane Yeomans

 

Add your comments | subscribe