If you’ve done some NLP training, you’ll know about ‘state control’ and you know the first principle for influencing others is that ‘you go there first’ and then you take the other person with you. How exactly do you do that?
Well perhaps you’ve answered something like – you know what the state feels like, so you get that feeling and maybe you do it by talking yourself there, or imaging situations when you were in that state. Perhaps you have another answer – which ever way, make a mental note of how you do it and how well you do it for now.
What do you do when life situations are tough and you start out from a negative state?
I hope you answered, then you remember to trigger your anchor for a suitable positive and resourceful state you set up earlier. As long as you have set up strong positive states and you remember to use them when you need them, this will work well. Remember the + state has to be stronger than the – state for success.
However, life can be complex, with on-going or new and unexpected challenges to deal with. How do you meet the complex or unexpected in the most suitable resourceful state to creatively and appropriately achieve the best possible outcome for all concerned?
What else can you do?
Remember how easy it is at times when you are seeing clearly, in the flow, in the zone, inspired, intuitive? What will it be like when you can feel this way anywhere, anytime, easily and automatically?
Think of a black panther, hunting, complete attention, total focus, sleekly moving poised and balanced, scenting the prey, aware of every movement around, flowing forward, silently, energy building – then a burst of speed, economy of movement, direct to target and swift end.
How would this panther react if whisked away and plonked down in the middle of New York City?
Exactly the same
But imagine or remember when you go on a plane, travel round the world to a strange city. How good are you? Does it take you a while to get over the jet lag, find your way around - acclimatise – before you perform at your best? Can you get off the plane go straight to your meeting and be your most effective?
On a smaller scale, how do you do at meetings, interviews, new situations?
Change, they say, is the source of stress, you may have seen a list some time of the amount of stress points you get for each change in your life, positive as well as negative.
When you know what is coming you can rehearse, prepare yourself; and when you don’t?
Traditionally the shaman is the intermediary, the go-between, harmoniser, communicator, healer – between the community and everything else: the forces of nature, plant, animal, mineral life as well as unseen energies and spirits. The shaman needs to be comfortable and flexible in any situation to act in a resourceful manner, that is his/her role.
Shamans use trance, shapeshifting and other developed skills to move between different worlds and into unknown situations with ease.
Here’s one way you can adapt and flow quickly and easily with any situation:
You do these things ahead of time, when and where you can, and within each and every situation and you will notice many benefits.
Ahead of time:
You can play imaginatively all you like with this one and it will work even better.
By the way – Ki nesthetic – Ki knows the tick of the universe
This example will demonstrate:
You live in a smallish town in the US. You are flying to London – your first visit to the UK - for an important business meeting, which will take place an hour after you get there. You have just enough time to make your way from Heathrow airport by taxi and you’ll be straight into it. You do have personal experience of jet lag from previous trips to Europe.
Here’s what you do:
About the author:
Article written by Susanna Bellini
Susanna Bellini is the creator of ShamaniX, training for the 21st century shaman. She is an experienced NLP trainer and Master Practitioner, who also gained some unusual insights and experience during a two-year apprenticeship with Dr Richard Bandler and many years of training with traditional shamans.
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