Happy Valentine's Day!
Are you sending any Valentine cards this year? Imagine you are sending a very special one this year. Imagine you are sending a loving message to someone who really deserves one, the one person who is with you every day throughout your life. Yes, that's you!
So many of us are brought up to think it is wrong to put ourselves first and that it is selfish to consider our own needs. Yet loving ourselves is not the same as selfishness. It is acknowledging and appreciating all our positive qualities, our skills and talents Â? the person we are. Many of us are far more ready to criticise ourselves, remembering the negative things that other people tell us and easily forgetting all the positive things! We are so busy trying to be someone else, who we think we should be, that we sometimes find it hard to accept ourselves as we are. We don't have to do everything and be everything for everyone else all the time. When we spend all our time on the needs of others, we can lose touch with ourselves.
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance Oscar Wilde
Learning to love ourselves as we are gives us the motivation to move forward in our lives. When we put value on ourselves, so will other people. When we are able to smile, take life and ourselves less seriously, put problems into perspective, we can make other people around us much happier. The better we feel on the inside, the better life becomes. The more deeply we care for ourselves, the more we can care for others around us. So it's a win-win situation!
For a moment, think of someone who loves or really appreciates you and imagine them standing in front of you. Now imagine stepping into their place and looking back at yourself through their eyes. Feel the love they feel for you and notice what it is they love about you. What do they most appreciate about you?
Seeing ourselves from a new perspective helps us notice qualities that we may not have appreciated about ourselves before Â? unique qualities that are different from everyone else. Rather than comparing yourself with others, become aware of your own strengths, feel grateful for what is good in your life and see how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.
Make a list now of your best qualities. Write down ten things you like about yourself. Discover what other people see in you. How would you describe yourself in positive words? Put this description somewhere you can see it and add to it. Make the decision to appreciate yourself more, give yourself credit for your achievements and always speak well of yourself.
Finally, treat yourself to something this Valentine's Day whether it's a bunch of flowers, a special dinner, a new haircut, whatever makes you feel cared for. Choosing to spend time and energy on things that bring you pleasure and make you feel good will give you a great boost and a wonderful sense of well-being. What better gift could anyone give you on Valentine's Day!
© Rhona Morris
About the author:My interest in natural health goes back more than 25 years when I decided to alter my diet and lifestyle to improve the quality of my life. Now as a Health & Personal Development Coach, I help others make changes that are important to them. Call for a chat on 01286 676838
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